Christmas Eve in November…

Cade 3Friday night… will go down in history… as one of the favorite nights of my life… right up there with the Christmas Eve when we came out of Church to find it snowing… right up there with the Christmas Eve when we went to Midnight Mass and came home to find that Santa Claus had visited while we were gone…

Yes… Friday night definitely was a Christmas Eve kind of night… as I attended Lawrence County High School’s… Red-White basketball games… essentially this is the intra-squad skirmish games which mark the official opening to the season… which would be fun… but hardly Christmas Eve worthy… except that this year… there was a star player for the varsity White team… Cade Jones…

Cade is a very special seventeen year old… he plays football… golf… soccer… and other sports… all on the Special Olympics teams… but last night… he was a starter on his high school varsity shoot ball team… something he’s wanted to do for a long time…

He was the last player introduced to the crowd… and his entrance to his WWE hero Randy Orton’s theme song… would have made Randy pale in comparison… Cade owned the crowd… fans were on their feet… demonstrating their enthusiasm for his appearance…

Cade 4Once the game started… I was impressed by the players… both Red and White… who made certain that this was an evening that Cade would always remember… his teammates… especially Chip… consistently passed the ball to him when it was time to shoot… at first he missed a few… but then his streak began… and he went on to score 19 points for the Whites… it may have helped that the Red team backed off and didn’t try to block his shots… although… one of his best friends… Trey… gave the appearance that he was trying to keep Cade from shooting… but he always allowed Cade to out maneuver him… of course… Cade will not realize that… he also won’t realize that the referees didn’t call his miss-dribbling or walking… he didn’t even seem to mind that in the final seconds… the Whites lost by a few points… because as the buzzer sounded… Cade rejoined his teammates on the floor… and got to shoot one more time… and that he will always remember…

Cade 3What I will always remember… and be grateful for… is… Coach Shane Childress… and his willingness to make Cade’s dream come true… a community which has embraced Cade from the day he was born with Down Syndrome… the finest group of athletes I could ever hope to know who truly delighted in having Cade be one of the team and willingly gave him the spotlight… his parents Steve and Dewanna who always see his potential rather than his disability… his Mim Cindy who gives of herself so easily to him… his entire family who always make him feel special and loved… and mostly… I am grateful that I get to be his great-aunt… and that I will have many more opportunities to witness the joy and delight in his face as he accomplishes one more goal…

Jane…

And special thanks to Andy Bradford for the pictures… seems I forgot to take any…

Oh… and if you wondered what… Bertha… had to say… well… she was too hoarse from cheering to say much at all…

Why Did the Sand Trap Cross the Road?

Jane CarrollRecently…I saw a man on the beach…with a golf club. My first thought was…  oh…he’s practicing getting out of sand traps…what better place?

About that time…Bertha…flitted by…in her purplest bikini…and asked me…if his time would be better spent…practicing getting out of a sand trap…or perfecting his swing so that he didn’t land in one in the first place…

Well…em…um…mmm…hmmm…it was like the chicken and the egg question…and I didn’t have an answer for her…

My first thought was…hello…he should perfect his swing…but then that little voice in my head said…well…what about when he hits the sand and he doesn’t know how to get out…he’s got to be prepared

So I have to admit…I didn’t know the answer to the question…

Of course…Bertha…was all too happy to give me her fifty cents worth…she never stops at just two…reminding us…that just like our life…every time we shift our focus to all the…what ifs…we take our attention off of our goal…when we’re planning how we will handle all the things that could go wrong…we’re not focusing on how to make things go right…and…things will most likely go wrong…because that has been our primary focus…then…we pat ourselves on the back…and say…wasn’t I smart to plan for that

So…continuing the golf analogy…she said that we should only focus on what we want…our swing…connecting with the ball…landing on the green…or whatever it is that golf balls are supposed to doperhaps a non-golfer shouldn’t be writing this post…and…the ball dropping into the cup…

But…what about when we land in a sand trap…

Interestingly…she said that as we focus on what we want…we will be inspired to take the actions necessary to bring that into our life…and that may include swinging around a sand trap…but…the energy of it will be different…we will be seeing the goal…not looking for the challenges…on occasion…the sand trap will just be part of the journey to the hole…it won’t be a big hairy deal…

Of course…I’ve spent some time in the contemplation chair over this one…and I understand the fine-line difference she is referring to…I also realize that it is the same lesson…dressed a little differently…that she was giving us last week…when she told us to lose our but

Changing a sentence from…

I want to be a good golfer…but…there are all these sand traps!

To…

I want to be a good golfer…and I will figure it out…I am certain of it!

Here are…Bertha’s…suggestions for focusing on what we want…

She said it could be done a couple of ways…the first is visualization…it’s easy to do…just get quiet and daydream about our life if our dream had already come true…

Or…we can do it in writing…it’s called scripting…and we just write as if our dreams have already come true…an easy way is to make it a journal entry dated in the future…and just write all the wonderful things that are happening in your life…

Just remember…keep your eyes on the hole-in-one…and you won’t have to carry your golf clubs to the beach…unless you feel inspired to do so…

Jane

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