Fast Forward…Past Forgiveness…

Jane CarrollIt’s easier to trust the future when you forgive the past. ~Bertha

I have a whole list of…Berthaisms…which I plug into Random.org when I’m feeling a few ideas shy of a blog…this is what I got today…

My first response was…really…moi…surely that doesn’t apply to me…

But…Bertha…assured me that it most certainly did…as she brought to mind an incident from my past…one that I really haven’t forgiven myself for…even though it’s been quite a long time…

Okay…busted…I’ve excused it…I’ve understood it…but…I haven’t fully forgiven it…

And…she pointed out…that it is holding me back…from moving forward in life…in the way that I want to…

Ouch…

So…how do I…forgive…the past…so that I can…trust…the future…

For starters…Bertha…says to spend some time…really looking at the situation… remembering the details as best as I can…what were my feelings at the time…

Shame…guilt…disgust…

Then…she says to…start by forgiving the feelings…

Huh…shouldn’t I be forgiving the actions…

No…she said the actions would come later…that the feelings…were self-sabotaging…they were me…selling myself short…thinking the worst of myself…she said the actions are long gone…it’s the feelings which I keep holding on to…and that are holding me back…

So…it’s contemplation chair time…practicing the Forgiveness Prayer…for the shame…guilt…disgust…I have been carrying around like a spare tire…pulling it out when things were going really good…telling myself…that maybe I didn’t deserve it so good…and…pulling back…

The Forgiveness Prayer…Ho’oponopono…is simple…I love you…I’m sorry…please forgive me…thank you… said simply between…me…and…me…

Jane…

Coaching with Jane Carroll and BerthaYou may wonder why I don’t just tell you what the situation was…and…that’s because…Bertha…says that…what you imagine it is…is probably what you need to forgive in your own life…she’s sneaky like that. Bertha and I would love to help you finally forgive those things in your past which are holding you back from the future of your dreams. Send us an email… janecarrollauthor@charter.net

 

It’s All in the Rest…

As you probably already know…I’ve started a strength training program…which means…I eat, breathe and sleep strength training…literally…from all I’ve read…and that would be a lot…the results of working out with weights come in two phases…

Phase one…the workout…stressing the muscles…causes tiny tears…breaks down the muscle tissue…so to speak…interestingly…although it is a vital part of the process…this isn’t the phase that actually makes you stronger…

So…if the actual lifting of the weight doesn’t make you stronger…what does…

Ahhh…that would be phase two…the critical step…rest…you see…it’s that day or two of rest in between sessions…that allows the muscle tissue to regenerate…and…you guessed it…become stronger…

So as counterintuitive as it feels…when I’m chomping at the bits to get even faster results…and hit the gym again…the day after a great workout…is not the time to push it…it’s the day to get plenty of sleep…stay active but not lifting weights…eat well…and give the muscles time to do what they need to do…repair themselves…

Bertha…is proud of me for learning this lesson…and taking my rest days…but…she has related it to my life as a whole…reminding me…it isn’t a crisis that makes me strong…it is what I do between crises…that actually makes me stronger and able to handle the next stress when it comes up…

That’s why she says the practices that I do…reading inspirational books…prayer…meditation…contemplation…saying the forgiveness prayer…Reiki…laughing…spending time with loved ones…enjoying life…are all so important…they actually regenerate my life…giving me the strength to handle the next thing that comes up…

I guess…I’d never thought about it in just that way…I always thought it was the crisis that made me stronger…not the other way around…

Hmmm…something to contemplate…on my day of rest

Jane