Fast Forward…Past Forgiveness…

Jane CarrollIt’s easier to trust the future when you forgive the past. ~Bertha

I have a whole list of…Berthaisms…which I plug into Random.org when I’m feeling a few ideas shy of a blog…this is what I got today…

My first response was…really…moi…surely that doesn’t apply to me…

But…Bertha…assured me that it most certainly did…as she brought to mind an incident from my past…one that I really haven’t forgiven myself for…even though it’s been quite a long time…

Okay…busted…I’ve excused it…I’ve understood it…but…I haven’t fully forgiven it…

And…she pointed out…that it is holding me back…from moving forward in life…in the way that I want to…

Ouch…

So…how do I…forgive…the past…so that I can…trust…the future…

For starters…Bertha…says to spend some time…really looking at the situation… remembering the details as best as I can…what were my feelings at the time…

Shame…guilt…disgust…

Then…she says to…start by forgiving the feelings…

Huh…shouldn’t I be forgiving the actions…

No…she said the actions would come later…that the feelings…were self-sabotaging…they were me…selling myself short…thinking the worst of myself…she said the actions are long gone…it’s the feelings which I keep holding on to…and that are holding me back…

So…it’s contemplation chair time…practicing the Forgiveness Prayer…for the shame…guilt…disgust…I have been carrying around like a spare tire…pulling it out when things were going really good…telling myself…that maybe I didn’t deserve it so good…and…pulling back…

The Forgiveness Prayer…Ho’oponopono…is simple…I love you…I’m sorry…please forgive me…thank you… said simply between…me…and…me…

Jane…

Coaching with Jane Carroll and BerthaYou may wonder why I don’t just tell you what the situation was…and…that’s because…Bertha…says that…what you imagine it is…is probably what you need to forgive in your own life…she’s sneaky like that. Bertha and I would love to help you finally forgive those things in your past which are holding you back from the future of your dreams. Send us an email… janecarrollauthor@charter.net

 

Trusting the Right Thing…

This morning…Bertha…keeps whispering to me about…trust…trusting myself and trusting others…to always do the right thing

And…of course…I argue…but…they don’t always do the right thing…in fact…sometimes…they are way off base…

Then…she reminds me…one more time…that when someone else does the right thing…it is from their perspective…not mine…

She further reminds me that I can only do the right thing…from my perspective…that when I try to do what I think is right…based on what I think someone else thinks…I’m usually off the mark…

Hmmm…not sure where this came from this morning…but…from my perspective…it’s the right thing to write…

Jane