Lies I Tell Myself…

IMG_6039-2 copyBertha… wanted me to talk about… lying… this morning… according to her I have been falling prey to four of the more common lies… even though I may not utter the words to anyone else… I hear them loud and clear…

I don’t have time… go to the gym… write… make the bed… keep the house the way I like it to look… only to find… that once I determined that I wanted to do these things… that they were really important to me… time didn’t seem to be a problem…

It doesn’t matter… whatever you want to do… has crossed my lips more times than hot fudge sauce… when… at least part of the time… it did matter… there was something that I wanted to do… somewhere I wanted to eat… something I wanted to watch…

I’m fine… nothing is the matter… oh… sparing someone else’s feelings… by burying mine… pretending that that unacceptable behavior was acceptable… pretending that my life is perfect… so no one will know that I am vulnerable…

I can’t afford it… and while it is true… there are many things that I can’t afford… it’s even more true that those aren’t the things I generally say I can’t afford… no… the things I usually refer to as too expensive… are usually things that I don’t really want… because… 99% of the time… if I really want something… I find a way to get it… I scrimp on something else… I save for it I work extra… I sell something… I borrow money… I ask for it as a gift…

So… yes… I’m guilty… no… not every day… and not all the time… in fact… I’m getting better about living my truth… but there are still times… when these falsehoods cross my mind and my lips…

Bertha… says… that’s okay… it’s a process… it’s learning to ask myself… is that really true… do I not have time… does it really not matter… am I really fine… can I really not afford it or do I just not want it… then she says to ask… what do I really want… how can I make this happen… where do I want to go… what do I want to do… how do I want to be treated… what do I really need today…

She says the more I do that… the more I will respect myself… and interestingly… the more others will respect me, too…

Jane…

Oh… and she said the same is true for you…

Live Your Options…

Shopping FrustRecently I was shopping with a friend… who complained about the checkout system of the store we were in… I opened my mouth to respond… but… Bertha’s… voice popped out… instead of mine…

You don’t have to shop here… if it bothers you… shop somewhere else…

Well… thankfully that breezy quip didn’t start and argument… but I was glad to get out of the store just the same and carry on with our day…

It wasn’t until I got home that… Bertha… told me…

I meant that for you…

Huh? How could that be meant for me… I wasn’t the one complaining… although I did find their system to be a little… okay a lot… cumbersome…

Of course… Bertha was all too happy to fill me in…

Seems as though she was referring to my life… not my shopping habits… and the times that I complain about the way things are… while continuing to do them… just the way I always have… without considering that I always have other options…

So… today… I think some contemplation time is in order… to consider what I’ve been complaining about… what my options are… and how I can live them…

Jane…

And… Bertha… invites you to take some time to contemplate your life as well… what have you been complaining about… we’d love to help you live your options… CLICK HERE to request a complimentary session… and we’ll do just that!