Circumstantial Forgiveness…


Bertha…is urging me to forgive any unpleasant circumstances in my life Jane Carrolltoday…those circumstances…where there’s really no one to blame…but…things just aren’t going the way I want them to…and…I feel the need to blame someone…anyway…

Okay…I don’t have to dig too deep…to find a couple of examples…past and present…but…I’m not exactly sure how to forgive a circumstance

She says that I begin by forgiving myself…reminding me that I am the common denominator in all of them…so…I forgive my part in the situation… she says that may look like…resistance…guilt…shame…blame …victimhood… whatever the feelings that I am having…connected with the situation…

Then…she says…I should let go of the…need…for things to be different…and just accept what they are…while keeping my sights set on where I want to go from here…

She says it’s like going on a trip…I may not enjoy all of the scenery along the way…but…I don’t get frustrated because I know these places are only temporary…and…if I just keep following the map…I’ll arrive at my destination in no time…

Then…she brings up the alternative…forty years…wandering the desert

Hmmm…forgiveness sounds much better than…wandering…

Jane

4 thoughts on “Circumstantial Forgiveness…

  1. You know I always agree with Bertha…however, there are times when just “kicking it to the curb and screaming I will never forgive this!” feels so much better…I think that is in some strange way a form of forgiveness or at least a start ?

    You know how I am :) <3

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