Help!


Bertha…is bringing up a subject this morning…one that is mostly difficult for me…and probably for many of you as well…and that is…accepting help…and…even more difficult…asking for help…

This is truly a challenge…I’ve been fiercely independent for a long time…Mama recounts that as a two-year old I would stomp my foot…and proclaim…I’ll do it

Now you may think that was just a case of the terrible twos…and while I’m sure it was…I just kind of didn’t grow out of it…

So…it’s hard for me to accept help…even when I want it…even when I need it…and…although I’ve never been to intense counseling about it…I think it’s just a fear of being vulnerable…of seeming incapable…in some way…

Now…don’t get me wrong…I’ll probably let you help with the dishes if you come over for dinner…dislike of kitchen cleaning trumps vulnerability…every time

It’s the big deals that have always given me pause…although…as I write this…I realize…I’m changing…in that respect…I belong to a few groups that cross promote each other’s writing…and…I can now ask for what I need within the groups…it’s a start…

And…according to…Bertha…it’s an important start…because…there’s a balance between…giving and receiving…or…there should be…the more I receive…the more I accept…the more I can give…be it…time…money…ideas…support…

Hmmm…a lot to contemplate this morning…right after I ask…Bertha…why she doesn’t help with the dishes…

Jane

2 thoughts on “Help!

  1. I agree that it is difficult to ask for help.. I have similar issues. I do think though that people who care about us, genuinely care, are more than willing to help when we need them. We have to learn to trust them. Easier said than done, some days! ((hugs))

    • I agree completely, Christy. I know that I love to help my friends…and feel a bit hurt when they don’t allow me to. It’s a balancing act…that’s for sure!

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