Why I No Longer Care if You Like Me…


IMG_6039-2 copyOnce I wanted you to like me so much…that I never disagreed with you…or voiced my opinion until I knew what yours was so I could agree with you…

Once I wanted you to like me so much…that I always said yes to any request you made of me…no matter how inconvenient it was for me…or how much I just really didn’t want to do it…

Once I wanted you to like me so much…that I put your wants and needs above others who were important to me…my family…my friends…my career…myself…

Once I wanted you to like me so much…that I put on a mask…so you couldn’t see the tears when you disappointed me once again…and your approval never came…

Once I wanted you to like me so much…that I would have sold my soul to the Devil to make it so…

Until…one day…I realized…you…could/would…never like me…because…you didn’t know me at all…all you knew was a plastic shell…a twisted Barbie…trying to be perfect…afraid that who she was wouldn’t be who you wanted…

I reclaimed the pieces of who I am…one by one…deciding…what I wanted to keep…what I wanted to discard…and…one of the things I discarded…was…my overpowering desire that you should like me…

And…now…I like myself…

Jane

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8 thoughts on “Why I No Longer Care if You Like Me…

  1. sometimes I imagine all those years I wasted seeking to be liked and approved of by he who does not matter and what a different life I live now that I don’t care one bit. <3

    • I know what you mean Peggy…but I also have to be grateful for those years…because they molded me into who I am and I like that person pretty well…and like you…what a different life I live. <3

  2. The person reading will know who this applies to: I can no longer care anymore if you care about me because I’m exhausted and feel that I have only cheated myself by putting myself down and making light of my own self in order for your feelings to be protected. I’ve always been a person to do whatever it takes for you to like me. I cant help who I am or my birth order. We are all looking for acceptance. We just have to stop and realize we all are unique and wonderful. I like me because there’s alot to like.

  3. Thank you, Jane! I was the same way once upon a time. Now, I have done a 180! Not only will the people you want to love you won’t, they will use the largest knife in your back, then twist it. It is a waste of breath to even deal with them…

    • You are so right Carolyn…it’s exciting to find women who have made the 180…I’d be interested to know if there was a turning point for you or if it was just a gradual shift.

  4. One more thing. I am going to become a writer. It is my passion, so in some weird way these people might see themselves in my writings. Names changed to protect me of course!

    • All the people you’ve ever known show up in your writing, Carolyn…if not in ‘character’ then in feeling. I believe it is the feelings that we bring to the page that make good writers. Can’t wait to read your words.

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