Today’s Philosophy…

IMG_6039-2 copyRecently… I was privileged to spend some time with my cousin’s husband… although they have been married almost forty years… they have never lived here… and we haven’t had the opportunity to really get to know each other… and… by most accounts… we would be unlikely friends… as at first glance we have little in common…

He was German born and educated… and well educated at that… he is a very successful business man… and has traveled all over the world… and is very cosmopolitan… in contrast to me… who well… let’s just say… I’m much more laid back in most areas of my life…

But the funny thing was… we started a conversation… regarding… entitlement… and as we began to share our views… his from philosophers of old… and mine… from… Berthaand my Alabama perspective… they were actually… spot on the same… and so we expanded the conversation… to more philosophies… and although our words were different… we continued to have such similar values and beliefs… that I have to say… it was one of the most enjoyable afternoons I’ve had in a long time…

It would have been easy… to assume that I had nothing to add to a conversation with him… it would have been easy… to listen with a closed heart… and smile politely… but instead… I chose… to open my heart… to be vulnerable… to express how I felt and what I believed… and to listen to how his beliefs paralleled mine… and question where they didn’t… and be willing to come to a new conclusion…

Of course… Bertha… was pleased with me… for being open and vulnerable… but she also suggested… that perhaps… like with my cousin… I have more in common with others… who appear different… if I would just be open and vulnerable… willing to listen and share… and see where their beliefs actually parallel mine… and question where they don’t… and be willing to come to a new conclusion…

Then… she said… she hoped you would do it, too… and… we could watch together… as the world changed…

Jane

I’m a Little Snowflake…

Yesterday…Bertha…talked about…snowflakes…and…she seems to be continuing the concept today…

She reminds me…that although the conditions are essentially the same…same humidity…same temperature…same barometric pressure…that each snowflake crystalizes in a unique way…

She says this is important for me to remember…because…I sometimes think that everyone should react to things…exactly the same way that I would…and…conversely…I sometimes think that I should react the way that others do…

She reminds me…of how different siblings are…even mine…raised in the same family…under the same circumstances…and yet…each has a unique personality…it’s always so…

She brings up a favorite phrase of mine…when responding to another’s seemingly inappropriate behavior…

I would never do that

Reminding me…that while it is true…I wouldn’t…that beautiful snowflake would…and…it’s not for me…to judge it…because…they probably have the same opinion regarding at least some of my actions…

Jane