Cinderella… Is That You?

Cute curly little girl playing Cinderella fairy tale holding a magic wand next to a pumpkin carriage having fun in an autumn park at Halloween

Are you living the life of Cinderella… before the ball?

Huh?

Okay… I’ll explain. Before the ball, Cinderella never said NO. Always did what she was told or what was expected of her. She dreamed that her life could be different… but never really did anything to change it. She actually was the heiress to her father’s estate and yet she lived as a servant and a pauper. She really didn’t believe in herself… she was stuck in the old… I’m Not Enough Syndrome.

Essentially, Cinderella was a people pleaser… just like I was… and just like many of you are. The only difference is… she had a fairy godmother.

But interestingly enough, her fairy godmother did nothing to change Cinderella. She only changed her beliefs about herself. For the first time, Cinderella believed she was a true princess and she became the part… she became ENOUGH in her own mind. Which was wonderful… until the clock struck twelve… and it all went away… Cinderella and her newfound beliefs all became proverbial pumpkins.

Of course you know the end of the story… Cinderella left a glass slipper at the ball and the Prince used it to search for her… somehow he knew that only his princess would have a foot tiny enough for it to fit… and Cinderella had just enough moxie left to step up and produce the other shoe after her ugly stepsister broke the one the prince brought along.

And… they lived happily ever after.

So let me tell you what’s going on if you are living the life of pre-ball Cinderella. It’s not what you are doing for other people that is getting to you… it’s your underlying, subconscious beliefs that are causing the problems. And… specifically it’s the anger, fear, frustration, guilt, despair and a host of other unpleasant emotions which those beliefs trigger to keep you behaving in a way to protect yourself.

Jane

Oh… I forgot to mention… you can change your life… without a fairy godmother or a magic wand… and that’s the real magic! CLICK HERE to request a complimentary magic-wand session with Bertha and me.

Why I No Longer Care if You Like Me…

IMG_6039-2 copyOnce I wanted you to like me so much…that I never disagreed with you…or voiced my opinion until I knew what yours was so I could agree with you…

Once I wanted you to like me so much…that I always said yes to any request you made of me…no matter how inconvenient it was for me…or how much I just really didn’t want to do it…

Once I wanted you to like me so much…that I put your wants and needs above others who were important to me…my family…my friends…my career…myself…

Once I wanted you to like me so much…that I put on a mask…so you couldn’t see the tears when you disappointed me once again…and your approval never came…

Once I wanted you to like me so much…that I would have sold my soul to the Devil to make it so…

Until…one day…I realized…you…could/would…never like me…because…you didn’t know me at all…all you knew was a plastic shell…a twisted Barbie…trying to be perfect…afraid that who she was wouldn’t be who you wanted…

I reclaimed the pieces of who I am…one by one…deciding…what I wanted to keep…what I wanted to discard…and…one of the things I discarded…was…my overpowering desire that you should like me…

And…now…I like myself…

Jane

If this resonates with you…please join me for a complimentary session… so that you can…like yourself as much as you want to be liked by others…and stop pleasing them at your expense. CLICK HERE to request your Free Session.