Why I No Longer Care if You Like Me…

IMG_6039-2 copyOnce I wanted you to like me so much…that I never disagreed with you…or voiced my opinion until I knew what yours was so I could agree with you…

Once I wanted you to like me so much…that I always said yes to any request you made of me…no matter how inconvenient it was for me…or how much I just really didn’t want to do it…

Once I wanted you to like me so much…that I put your wants and needs above others who were important to me…my family…my friends…my career…myself…

Once I wanted you to like me so much…that I put on a mask…so you couldn’t see the tears when you disappointed me once again…and your approval never came…

Once I wanted you to like me so much…that I would have sold my soul to the Devil to make it so…

Until…one day…I realized…you…could/would…never like me…because…you didn’t know me at all…all you knew was a plastic shell…a twisted Barbie…trying to be perfect…afraid that who she was wouldn’t be who you wanted…

I reclaimed the pieces of who I am…one by one…deciding…what I wanted to keep…what I wanted to discard…and…one of the things I discarded…was…my overpowering desire that you should like me…

And…now…I like myself…

Jane

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Happiness…One Choice at a Time…

Happiness-is...-Freedom (1)I love happiness…I mean…who doesn’t…not liking happiness would make you…well…unhappy…and who wants to be unhappy…

That’s why I’m so happy…there’s that word again…to be a part of a happiness revolution of sorts…celebrating the launch of my friend…and bestselling publisher…Linda Joy’s latest book…Inspiration for a Woman’s Soul: Choosing Happiness…it shares intimate transformation stories of 27 amazing women…

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NowBertha…said all this talking about happiness…specifically…choosing happiness…makes her think of a time in my life…when I didn’t really understand just exactly how that worked…

See…I was going through a divorce…and…I was pretty much a basket case…not even a smidgen of happiness to be found

Oh…I wanted to be happy…I wanted to quit crying…BUT…I wanted it to be on my terms…I wanted to be happy reunited with my husband…with our kids…living in our house…well…you get the idea…

Enter…Berthaeven though I didn’t recognize her at the time…some little voice in my head told me…that I couldn’t put conditions on being happy…because I can’t control conditions…

That same little voice…also explained that I couldn’t go from…devastated… to…happy…in one fell swoop…no…it was more like…make a decision that I wanted to be happy…regardless of my marital status…then choose one small thing to be happy about…even if it was what I was having for dinner…then choose another…and…another…and just keep going until…one day…without really thinking about it…I would be happy again…and…I was…and I am…

Now…when I am unhappy about something…Bertha…bellows…no small voice for her…reminding me…to find one tiny…unrelated…thing to be happy about…and…well you know the rest…

Jane…

I certainly hope that you are making the choice to be happy today…and that…you will get a copy of…Inspiration for a Woman’s Soul: Choosing Happiness…to help you along the journey…Click here to grab your copy.