About Jane

Jane Carroll, Life Coach, assists women in finding, owning, and living their truth. She is the bestselling author of Bertha-Size Your Life!, Becoming Bertha, and Where the Joys Are: Bertha's Guided Journal. Jane divides her time between coaching, writing, blogging, and working as a school nurse with a little social media thrown in for entertainment.

Standing Firm

I came across a quote by Abraham Lincoln today…

Be sure you put your feet in the right place, then stand firm.

Bertha had a bit of a field day with it… reminding me of all the times I have done the standing firm part… without making sure my feet were in the right place…

Thankfully… she says I don’t have to list them all… this could be a very long blog… I mean there are… relationships… houses… jobs… all of which I have argued for and held on to… even though they really weren’t right for me… or in my best interest…

But… she does want us to talk about… money… spending money on things… and how easily I can decide that all my problems would be solved… if I only had this latest gadget… or cashmere sweater… or new car… or whatever it is… as I stand firmly and hand over my debit card… only to find myself in the same life I was in before… just a little… or a lot… poorer…

What can I say… even as I am making it a habit to pare down… to release the excess in my life… it’s still so easy… to fall for the immediacy of buying something… without taking the time to fully consider the impact it will make on my life… thankfully… in addition to Bertha… I have very practical friends… who have no problem telling me that I don’t need a new car… or a second house… or so many other things that sound so necessary in the moment…

Hopefully… they don’t roll their eyes as much as Bertha does… but who knows… I guess I really don’t care as long as they help me put my feet in the right place… before I dig in… and have two houses… one for each cat…

Jane

I Scream You Scream for Goals?

 

I had a small bowl of ice cream this afternoon… and as I ate it… I happened to think… about the art of eating ice cream… too slow and it melts… too fast and it freezes your brain… so… not unlike Goldilocks in an ice cream parlor… I got it just right…

Now… that may not seem important… and maybe it’s even a task best unmastered… except… for you know who… that’s right…

Bertha

Bertha… saunters by… and tells me she that it reminds her of working towards goals… too slow… procrastination and inertia set in… too fast… and impulsive choices and mistakes take over… steady at the helm… and… things move forward…

I have to say I was impressed that she got all of that watching me eat a bowl of ice cream… even if it was my favorite… Otter Paws… but I felt I had to explain to her… I’m retired… I really don’t have any major goals that I am working towards… that’s when her eyes rolled… as they often do…

So… she reminded me… of my desire to meet people in this new community… of just this morning when I rolled up my yoga mat with a desire to unroll it more often… she said… they don’t always have to be… SMART goals… it’s just the things I do on an average day… cleaning a closet… buying groceries… eating ice cream… there’s a rhyme and a rhythm…

Jane

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