One Easy Piece…

I was overwhelmed this weekend…there seemed to be so much to do…in so many areas of my life…that…I didn’t know where to start…and…so…I didn’t get much done on any of it…

I find this feeling to be very uncomfortable…I look around…literally and figuratively…and see so many pieces…that…I just shutdown instead of taking action…and…nothing gets done…it’s just too much…

Thankfully…Bertha…came home yesterday afternoon…I think she’d still be away on Spring Break…to remind me…to look at the task at hand…and only do the one easiest thing that I can do…don’t look further down the road…don’t look at the hard stuff…just focus on the easiest thing…and do it…

Well…of course she was right…I remembered…a few years back…when I wanted to quit drinking diet sodas…I didn’t start out there…that was too hard…I started out by drinking more water…that was easy…I allowed myself to drink as many drinks as I wanted…as long as…I drank 64 ounces of water…it naturally evolved that I was drinking one in the afternoon for several days…and then…one day I noticed that I forgot to drink it…and…I haven’t had one since…

It’s an approach that has served me well…in many areas of my life…

So…I took her advice…we all know that she wasn’t going to leave me alone until I did…and…I looked at things in a different way…what’s the one…easiest…thing that I can do to start this…not…how can I get this all accomplished in…one day…one hour…one minute…but…what is one easy thing I can do…and…what I found is that I did a few easy things…and…when I’m comfortable with them…then…I’ll look for the next easiest thing to do…and…the next…and…the next…

I relaxed…she’s right…I don’t have to make all the changes in one day…life is a process…and…I’m getting there…one easy piece at a time…

Jane

Is Amazon Confused?

I’ve confused a lot of people in my lifetime…by…not saying exactly what I meant…using body language that didn’t match my words…so…I guess it was bound to happen…at some point…I would confuse…Amazon

I didn’t mean to do it…it all started out fairly straight forward…I would order a book…or two…and…in a few weeks…they’d send me an email…with suggestions of other books that I might like…and…quite often I would like them enough to order a couple…then…Christmas came along…and my daughters sent me…Wish Lists…for their families…and…like a good mother…I ordered several items from each list…

So…I started getting emails…accessories that I might like for my Wii…which of course I didn’t have…and…then…books that only a son-in-law would read…and…all the latest…Curious George…and…Fancy Nancy…adventures…

But…even with that…it was manageable…I knew which books were mine…I knew which books were theirs…and the ratio that I ordered…mine versus theirs…meant they were mostly mine…

Then…about six months ago…I joined a writers group…and…many of the writers were offering their books as a promotional free download on Kindle…this helps their ratings…and…gives them kudos…for the number of downloads they have during that time…of course…we were encouraged…to download and promote their books…

At first…I struggled with the concept…Bertha and I have spent a lot of time…working on living my truth…and…honestly…many of the books…weren’t of a genre that I would read…or enjoy…I wanted to support my fellow authors…but…how could I promote them to my friends…when I wouldn’t read them…myself…

Bertha…gently reminded me…that my reading taste…is a bit…unusual…I prefer to say…eclectic…and…just because…I don’t read about vampires…or…steamy romances…or…a combination of the two…doesn’t mean…that…they aren’t the hottest genres around…

She…also said…that…I can promote a book…without…endorsing it…simply…by telling my friends…here’s a free book…and…let them look at it and decide if it interests them or not…hmmm…I could do that…and…I’ve had many friends thank me for passing along the links…

But…I also go a step farther…I download them…I mean…they are free…they don’t cost me anything…I don’t have to read them…if they don’t totally interest me…and…I’ve helped out an author…it seemed like a perfect win-win…

Except…

Except…for Amazon…and their formula…for…recommending my future reading material…so…now…I get an email…every so often…with some pretty obscure books…

Like…the following description…

Curious George…and…Fancy Nancy…are boxing on the Wii…when…they are attacked by vampires…unfortunately…the Man in the Yellow Hat…is in an alternate universe…involved in an erotic tryst…at the time…thankfully…a werewolf…comes to the rescue…destroying the vampires…and leaving behind…a copy of…the latest inspirational book…Bertha-Size Your Zombie!

Yep…I’m gonna download that one…just as soon as it’s…free…and…I’ll be sure to let you know…

Jane