One Man’s Difficult…

Someone…recently described me as…difficult…my first response was…to think of all the ways that my…difficultness…had been warranted…of all the ways…that I was…right…and they were…wrong…to perpetuate myself…as the victim…of unjust criticism…

Of course…Bertha…only let me wallow in those sentiments…for a few minutes…before…she pointed out the obvious…I was difficult…at least from…the other person’s perspective

Yikes…she was right…I was…although…I prefer to think of it as…determined…that sounds more…genteel…kind of like saying women…dew…instead of perspirealthough…they still smell like sweat at the end of the day…

Anyway…regardless of whether I was difficult or determined…she was actually proud of me…for taking a stand…for setting a boundary…for believing in my worth…for…not backing down…

And…I have to admit…these are not easy things for me to do…it’s much easier…just to go with someone else’s flow…and…say…whatever…so…that no one…refers to me as…difficult…I am a people pleaser…after all…

But…Bertha…says I have to let go of other people’s opinion of me…let go of the expectation…that…everyone…is going to…or…should…agree with me…like me…

Hmmm…not easy for a people pleaser…or a reforming people pleaser…as I hope I am

But…Bertha…promises…that as I let other people’s opinions go…and…live from my heart…that…real movement will take place in my life…movement…that will take me to the places that I want to go…

And…she says…it really isn’t…difficult

Jane

The Least Among Us…

Bertha…is reminding me this morning of one of my favorite stories from…Bertha-Size Your Life!…simply called…Gravy

It’s all about someone else’s perception…of…the least you can do…and…it usually isn’t…least…at all…

For me…it isn’t even always someone else doing the talking…it’s that…other…nagging voice inside my head…the one called…Rita…in the books…the one who is always trying to tell me…I’m not enough

Anyway…for whatever reason…Bertha…wants me to remember…and tell you…that…

The least you can do is…nothing…everything else is gravy! ~Bertha

That being said…I’m wishing you lots of gravy today…and…maybe…a few of Mama’s biscuits to go with it…now…that’s definitely…something…

Jane