Happiness…One Choice at a Time…

Happiness-is...-Freedom (1)I love happiness…I mean…who doesn’t…not liking happiness would make you…well…unhappy…and who wants to be unhappy…

That’s why I’m so happy…there’s that word again…to be a part of a happiness revolution of sorts…celebrating the launch of my friend…and bestselling publisher…Linda Joy’s latest book…Inspiration for a Woman’s Soul: Choosing Happiness…it shares intimate transformation stories of 27 amazing women…

Not only will you be inspired but for a limited time…you can get over 40 transformational gifts with your copy of…Choosing Happinessclick here to grab your copy and find out about the gifts…

NowBertha…said all this talking about happiness…specifically…choosing happiness…makes her think of a time in my life…when I didn’t really understand just exactly how that worked…

See…I was going through a divorce…and…I was pretty much a basket case…not even a smidgen of happiness to be found

Oh…I wanted to be happy…I wanted to quit crying…BUT…I wanted it to be on my terms…I wanted to be happy reunited with my husband…with our kids…living in our house…well…you get the idea…

Enter…Berthaeven though I didn’t recognize her at the time…some little voice in my head told me…that I couldn’t put conditions on being happy…because I can’t control conditions…

That same little voice…also explained that I couldn’t go from…devastated… to…happy…in one fell swoop…no…it was more like…make a decision that I wanted to be happy…regardless of my marital status…then choose one small thing to be happy about…even if it was what I was having for dinner…then choose another…and…another…and just keep going until…one day…without really thinking about it…I would be happy again…and…I was…and I am…

Now…when I am unhappy about something…Bertha…bellows…no small voice for her…reminding me…to find one tiny…unrelated…thing to be happy about…and…well you know the rest…

Jane…

I certainly hope that you are making the choice to be happy today…and that…you will get a copy of…Inspiration for a Woman’s Soul: Choosing Happiness…to help you along the journey…Click here to grab your copy.

I Like Big Bottom Lines…I Cannot Lie…

I was talking with a friend this weekend…about relationships…their sentiment being…that there’s always a bottom line…a low point…an invisible line…that once it’s crossed…there’s no going back…unfortunately…it’s not something that can be articulated to the other person…ahead of time…

Well…you know me…I’ve contemplated that a lot since then…and…I can appreciate the truth to it…I’ve always thought of it as a door…that once closed couldn’t be reopened…but…I don’t think the image is as important as the concept…

In looking back to the times that I chose to end a relationship…I can see…there was always a decisive moment…when things could have gone either way…one action…one word…could have spared the relationship…but…left undone…left unspoken…there was no going back…even if the relationship continued for a time…it was empty…null…void…

Interestingly…I couldn’t have told you ahead of time…what that moment would be…maybe it’s the realization that things will never change…maybe it’s realizing that staying in the relationship is more painful than living without it…I’m sure that if I contemplate it long enough…I can find the common denominator…that elusive feeling that I can’t yet describe…

Bertha…was eavesdropping on the conversation…and my contemplation…she later told me that the bottom line…applies to much more than intimate relationships…it applies to my whole life…

She reminds me of jobs I have left…after being unhappy for some time…and not taking action…one day…it was just over…the thought of staying in the job was more painful than looking for a new one…and I started looking…

Then…there is my body…she reminds me of the events of the summer…when I realized that it was more painful to continue to seek comfort in food…than to create a healthier lifestyle…including releasing those foods…

And…she’s right…even though I wasn’t totally aware that the line had been drawn…that it was being crossed at the time…once it was…there was never a doubt…and…no going back…

Jane