Fast Forward…Past Forgiveness…

Jane CarrollIt’s easier to trust the future when you forgive the past. ~Bertha

I have a whole list of…Berthaisms…which I plug into Random.org when I’m feeling a few ideas shy of a blog…this is what I got today…

My first response was…really…moi…surely that doesn’t apply to me…

But…Bertha…assured me that it most certainly did…as she brought to mind an incident from my past…one that I really haven’t forgiven myself for…even though it’s been quite a long time…

Okay…busted…I’ve excused it…I’ve understood it…but…I haven’t fully forgiven it…

And…she pointed out…that it is holding me back…from moving forward in life…in the way that I want to…

Ouch…

So…how do I…forgive…the past…so that I can…trust…the future…

For starters…Bertha…says to spend some time…really looking at the situation… remembering the details as best as I can…what were my feelings at the time…

Shame…guilt…disgust…

Then…she says to…start by forgiving the feelings…

Huh…shouldn’t I be forgiving the actions…

No…she said the actions would come later…that the feelings…were self-sabotaging…they were me…selling myself short…thinking the worst of myself…she said the actions are long gone…it’s the feelings which I keep holding on to…and that are holding me back…

So…it’s contemplation chair time…practicing the Forgiveness Prayer…for the shame…guilt…disgust…I have been carrying around like a spare tire…pulling it out when things were going really good…telling myself…that maybe I didn’t deserve it so good…and…pulling back…

The Forgiveness Prayer…Ho’oponopono…is simple…I love you…I’m sorry…please forgive me…thank you… said simply between…me…and…me…

Jane…

Coaching with Jane Carroll and BerthaYou may wonder why I don’t just tell you what the situation was…and…that’s because…Bertha…says that…what you imagine it is…is probably what you need to forgive in your own life…she’s sneaky like that. Bertha and I would love to help you finally forgive those things in your past which are holding you back from the future of your dreams. Send us an email… janecarrollauthor@charter.net

 

Bejeweled Life…

Recently I download…Bejeweled™…on my phone…it’s the only game I Jane Carrollplay… and I thought it would come in handy when I have to wait somewhere and don’t have anything else to do…

Well…this particular version…has options…so out of the ten or so listed…I chose…Zen…although I knew nothing about it at the time…

Zen…has quickly become my favorite game…because…it never ends…or at least it hasn’t so far…you clear level after level…I’m on level 101 now…and another level just appears…

Unlike other versions I’ve played…one wrong move doesn’t end the game… there is always another play…when I goof up and only connect three jewels instead of five that were possible…no problem…there’s another move waiting…and…sometimes…the move that I thought wasn’t going to be so good…is actually…awesome…I find it very relaxing…

Bertha…says it reminds her of life…and she claims she’s been trying to tell me this for…years…that there are no…real…mistakes…failures…that…as long as I am living…there is always another way…that sometimes…the things that I observe to be not-so-good…turn out to be awesome…and sometimes…the things that I think are awesome…turn out to be not-so-good…and sometimes…I am…dead on…

But…regardless…of the outcome…as long as I’m alive…there’s always another play…another level to clear…more jewels…

Hmmm…a lot to think about…

Jane

Have you checked out…Becoming Bertha…it’s just released and is chocked full of…Bertha’s…wonderful life lessons…and some pretty cool outfits!