One Trick Pony…

You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want. ~ Zig Ziglar

I just love when…Bertha…can’t directly get my attention…she starts sending me messages in other ways…usually…multiple times…and so it was with the above quote…first I saw it on Facebook…and it reminded me of my friend who is always doing so much to help others…so I shared it on her page…but…evidently…it was meant for me as well…because it showed up the next morning in a blog that I subscribe to…

This one is a bit hard for me…not that I don’t enjoy helping other people…I love that…it’s just…when do I have the time to do what I need to do…if I’m spending it helping others…

Bertha…says…not to worry…Zig doesn’t say that I have to do it all…alone…take care of myself and everyone else…the implication…is that when I am giving to others…that things will flow back to me…either by someone else helping me…or…that they’ll just go easier…being in the right place at the right time kind of thing…

The trick is…to allow that help to come to me…that’s not easy for me…Mama says that at two I stomped my foot and said…NO! I’ll do it myself…and…I guess I haven’t changed that much over the years…somehow thinking that in doing it…myself…I was somehow proving I was a strong person…letting go of that stubborn independence…is tough for me…but…just for today…I’m going to try…

Jane

Some Rules are Golden…

Mama always told me…treat others the way you want to be treated

Yesterday…I got an example…of what not to do…I was presenting to a group of teachers…who had been in meetings all morning…it was almost lunchtime…they were tired…they were hungry…they were chatty…they were inattentive…

In fact…they reminded me a lot of their students…I wanted to send them out in the hall…not an option…but I finally did have to…call them down…not my finest moment…I might add…

I must admit…I fumed after the meeting…how dare they act like that…how could they expect their students to behave when they couldn’t…didn’t they know the Golden Rule

Valid points…I might add…but…Bertha…being…Bertha…wasn’t so interested in the behavior of others…for some reason…she’s only interested in mine…so she totally turned it around…

Seems as though…Bertha’s…rule goes more like this…treat yourself the way you want others to treat you

Then…she so poignantly pointed out…recent times when I hadn’t been listening to myself…when I’d ignored her…when I didn’t treat myself with total respect…

Hmmm…that brought chills…literally…as I recalled those times…

She summed her case up with…how can I expect others to respect me…if I don’t respect myself…

Okay…so I spent some time on the…naughty bench…hoping someone with a paddle wouldn’t walk by…thankfully they didn’t…

Jane