Pet Rocks and Peeves…

Like most of you…I have a few pet peeves…some of them resemble pet rocks…Pet Rocks...Just Hanging Out...just sitting around…gathering dust…not really amounting to much…others…well…others…get aired for the world to see…this is one of them…

As an author…I spend a fair amount of time perusing Amazon…sometimes it’s checking up on the sales of Bertha-Size Your Life!…others…it’s checking out someone else’s book…usually with the intent to purchase…

You may or may not have noticed…but there is a…like…button under the title of the book…it’s a little light grey button with a thumbs up on it…it has a number on it…indicating how many people have liked this book…if you click it…it adds a number and becomes orange…

So…how can this innocent little button be one of my pet peeves…simple…I can’t tell you how many times I have checked out a book…and found…zero…for the number of likes…

Okay…I can understand having a low number…I mean…you can’t make people click the…like…button…in fact…most folks don’t even pay any attention to it…even if they buy the book and love it…they don’t give it the thumbs up…I don’t have a problem with that…

But…zero…to me that says that the author doesn’t like the book…doesn’t have confidence in it…which really bothers me…Bertha…says it’s like a politician who doesn’t vote for himself…and…honestly…who ever heard of that…

I suppose some people think it is vain…maybe deceptive…to click…like…for their own work…and…there may have been a time when I was inclined to agree with them…but…that was before…Bertha…had a talk with me…explaining that I couldn’t wait for others to believe in me to start believing in myself…I had to show them the way…I had to believe in me first…

She said it makes no difference if it’s the Presidential election…the local yard-of-the-month competition…or…a book on Amazon…if I want others to believe in me…I had to do it first…I had to vote for myself…

At first…that went a bit against my grain…I was raised not to toot my own horn…although…now that I think about it…tooting someone else’s sounds a bit germy and gross…but…I digress…

I spent some time with it…then I realized…believing in myself is not the equivalent of boasting…in fact…confident people rarely need to boast…they just quietly click the…like…button…and let it go at that…

And…that’s what I hope to do in my life…some days…it’s easier than others…

Jane

On Bertha’s Soapbox…

It’s January…I’m already tired of the political races…and they haven’t really started…there will be many…days…weeks…months…to come…filled with bickering…name calling…and mudslinging…
Bertha says…look on the bright side
I say…that is the bright side…it may be much worse
Social media…AKA…Facebook…has added a whole new dimension to politics…now the supporters of the opposing candidates…can square off…in print…for the world to see…and add their two cents worth…it ain’t pretty…it’s actually depressing…
And yet…to play off the old commercial…I can’t believe I read the whole thing…but…as frustrating as it was…I did…I read every word…of a very long…very heated debate…with some valid…and ridiculous…points made for both sides…and some that I don’t think really cared one way or the other…they just enjoyed stirring the pot…
I didn’t post…
Mama taught me a long time ago…there just some things a lady doesn’t put on Facebook…she was very farsighted…for the day…and that’s politics…religion…football…and your love life…
I try to remember that…
I try to remember that there is no perfect candidate…for the most part…they all have some good points…and some not so good points…they mostly have good intentions when they make their promises…but most of them can’t be kept…in the end…I’ll have my favorite…I’ll vote…but…I’ll work with whomever is elected…
I try to remember that other’s religious beliefs aren’t mine to judge…and hope they feel the same about mine…
I try to remember that there are crazy fans for all football teams…but…there are also lots and lots of wonderful people who just happen to get really excited about a particular team…good for them…I respect their passion…I respect their right to choose…I hope they respect my right to be rather indifferent…although…I do have a preference…
I try to remember…hmmm…what was it like to have a love life…hmmm…nothing comes to mind…geez…
I’m stepping off Bertha’s soapbox now…she’s herding me to the contemplation chair…seems I’ve gotten a bit riled up…and I need to spend some time with the forgiveness prayer…
Anything to get me off of her soapbox…
Jane