It’s easier to trust the future when you forgive the past. ~Bertha
I have a whole list of…Berthaisms…which I plug into Random.org when I’m feeling a few ideas shy of a blog…this is what I got today…
My first response was…really…moi…surely that doesn’t apply to me…
But…Bertha…assured me that it most certainly did…as she brought to mind an incident from my past…one that I really haven’t forgiven myself for…even though it’s been quite a long time…
Okay…busted…I’ve excused it…I’ve understood it…but…I haven’t fully forgiven it…
And…she pointed out…that it is holding me back…from moving forward in life…in the way that I want to…
Ouch…
So…how do I…forgive…the past…so that I can…trust…the future…
For starters…Bertha…says to spend some time…really looking at the situation… remembering the details as best as I can…what were my feelings at the time…
Shame…guilt…disgust…
Then…she says to…start by forgiving the feelings…
Huh…shouldn’t I be forgiving the actions…
No…she said the actions would come later…that the feelings…were self-sabotaging…they were me…selling myself short…thinking the worst of myself…she said the actions are long gone…it’s the feelings which I keep holding on to…and that are holding me back…
So…it’s contemplation chair time…practicing the Forgiveness Prayer…for the shame…guilt…disgust…I have been carrying around like a spare tire…pulling it out when things were going really good…telling myself…that maybe I didn’t deserve it so good…and…pulling back…
The Forgiveness Prayer…Ho’oponopono…is simple…I love you…I’m sorry…please forgive me…thank you… said simply between…me…and…me…
Jane…
You may wonder why I don’t just tell you what the situation was…and…that’s because…Bertha…says that…what you imagine it is…is probably what you need to forgive in your own life…she’s sneaky like that. Bertha and I would love to help you finally forgive those things in your past which are holding you back from the future of your dreams. Send us an email… janecarrollauthor@charter.net
Oh Jane that makes me sad to think you were selling yourself short. You’re amazing and I think so highly of you! Regarding forgiveness, it’s not an easy one, especially to forgive ourselves. I send you much love ♥
Oh…thank you Christy…just those dusty little corners that we tend to ignore for a while…once we turn the light on them…and get out the swifter…it isn’t so bad. 😉
Thanks for allowing us to do this Bertha. I love coming here for a dose of inspiration and smiles. Oh and thanks to you too Jane! 😉 <3 Of course I'm sharing Bertha's 'forgiveness' wisdom!
Thank you so much, Debby. Bertha is doing a happy dance from your comments. 🙂