I’m a control freak…I’ve tried to be a recovering control freak…but…so far…I’m still in
full blown control mode…
I’m not sure why…I want to be spontaneous…I want to be carefree…I want to be…Bertha…but…I’m not…there are just too many details floating around…that I feel the need to wrestle to the ground…
I want to wake up on Saturday morning…and decide to go out of town…or do something totally fun…without worrying about…when the laundry will be done…or the groceries bought…
Funny…I think I used to be that person…at least a lot more than I am now…so…what happened…what turned me into the micromanager of the century…
Bertha…jumps in…the one thing I can’t control…her mouth…she says…it’s all about…
Trust…
I have to admit…I didn’t see that one coming…but…she explains…over the years…I quit trusting that other people…could…would…do what they were supposed to…
But…I argue…that’s because…they…DON’T…
The next thing she said…kind of bugged me…maybe that’s because I don’t give them the time and space that they need to do it…maybe it’s because…I demand that they do it…my way…and…not theirs…
I hate it when…she’s right…
She also says…that…it’s about…a skewed sense of…
Responsibility…
That…somehow…I mistakenly came up with the idea…that…it was my responsibility…to make everything run smoothly…to make everyone happy…
She assures me…that’s way above my pay scale…
Then…she added one more thing…it’s about…
Belief…
About my belief…that…it’s not okay…to just relax and have fun…because…if I do…something bad will happen…she says…that’s probably because…at some point in my past…I was relaxing and having fun…and…something bad did happen…but…she assures me…that…bad things just happen from time to time…and…it just happened to coincide with me being relaxed and having a good time…it wasn’t a punishment…
Hmmm…lots to contemplate…
Jane
Oh, Jane, Bertha talks such a lot of common sense, I wish she would come and live with me permanently instead of just popping in and out now and again!
Joy…she would love to move on in! You may want to add another closet…the girl loves her shoes!
I think it’s good to have a combination of controlled moments and other moments of just relaxing — balance <3 Hugs for your day!
So true, Christy…and I realized…that in my day job as a nurse…I truly have to be a control freak about some things!
Hello Jane,
Nice to meet you.
I just fell I have to comment here. I really can relate with your “antinomy” above
Responsibilities or Fun?….
Control or letting it go?… And so on…
Just thinking that you alter ego Bertha is right at some point but so are you…
Good leaders also have fun because they can delegate responsibility…
Sometimes we just can´t do the same as
we don´t always have “subordinates” below us…
…Maybe the way we handle our duties sets up the difference here… (smiles could help)
Cheers & Thank you for this cool post,
Aquileana 😉
Thanks Aquileana…great comments…and…in fact…I’ve been contemplating how in my nursing profession…I am required to be a control freak…at least on certain matters…things to have to happen in a precise way…however…I’ve never been good at delegation…alas…I gave up working in Administration… 🙂
Bertha is just so smart, we all should listen to her.
Thanks Isabelle…I know I should…unfortunately…sometimes I wear earplugs for way too long!
Oh, Jane! You mean I wasn’t being punished for having a good time? This little bit of wisdom from Bertha was just what I needed to read today…maybe every day! I will unwind a little today, I think, and not try to control everything in my little world. 🙂
Peggy…it does seem like ‘punishment’ sometimes! But…no…it’s not. Funny…this was exactly what I needed to read today myself…we are so much alike! Have a relaxed day!