Recently…I saw a man on the beach…with a golf club. My first thought was… oh…he’s practicing getting out of sand traps…what better place?
About that time…Bertha…flitted by…in her purplest bikini…and asked me…if his time would be better spent…practicing getting out of a sand trap…or perfecting his swing so that he didn’t land in one in the first place…
Well…em…um…mmm…hmmm…it was like the chicken and the egg question…and I didn’t have an answer for her…
My first thought was…hello…he should perfect his swing…but then that little voice in my head said…well…what about when he hits the sand and he doesn’t know how to get out…he’s got to be prepared…
So I have to admit…I didn’t know the answer to the question…
Of course…Bertha…was all too happy to give me her fifty cents worth…she never stops at just two…reminding us…that just like our life…every time we shift our focus to all the…what ifs…we take our attention off of our goal…when we’re planning how we will handle all the things that could go wrong…we’re not focusing on how to make things go right…and…things will most likely go wrong…because that has been our primary focus…then…we pat ourselves on the back…and say…wasn’t I smart to plan for that…
So…continuing the golf analogy…she said that we should only focus on what we want…our swing…connecting with the ball…landing on the green…or whatever it is that golf balls are supposed to do…perhaps a non-golfer shouldn’t be writing this post…and…the ball dropping into the cup…
But…what about when we land in a sand trap…
Interestingly…she said that as we focus on what we want…we will be inspired to take the actions necessary to bring that into our life…and that may include swinging around a sand trap…but…the energy of it will be different…we will be seeing the goal…not looking for the challenges…on occasion…the sand trap will just be part of the journey to the hole…it won’t be a big hairy deal…
Of course…I’ve spent some time in the contemplation chair over this one…and I understand the fine-line difference she is referring to…I also realize that it is the same lesson…dressed a little differently…that she was giving us last week…when she told us to lose our but…
Changing a sentence from…
I want to be a good golfer…but…there are all these sand traps!
To…
I want to be a good golfer…and I will figure it out…I am certain of it!
Here are…Bertha’s…suggestions for focusing on what we want…
She said it could be done a couple of ways…the first is visualization…it’s easy to do…just get quiet and daydream about our life if our dream had already come true…
Or…we can do it in writing…it’s called scripting…and we just write as if our dreams have already come true…an easy way is to make it a journal entry dated in the future…and just write all the wonderful things that are happening in your life…
Just remember…keep your eyes on the hole-in-one…and you won’t have to carry your golf clubs to the beach…unless you feel inspired to do so…
Jane
These techniques work well…whether you are focusing on your career or your love life or your health…
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