Mistaken for Granted…

A writer friend of mine recently posed a question on Facebook…why is it that strangers see your worth…and…appreciate you…but…your own family continues to take you for granted…

Well…Bertha…immediately jumped all over that one…but not the way that I had…imagined…even hoped…she would…yes…I thought she would bemoan…how under loved and underappreciated I am

Instead…she turned the question around…asking me…if my family and friends would ask the same question about me…

What…well…uh…no…of course they wouldn’t…

But…honestly…sometimes…they would…

Sometimes…I get so busy and tangled up in my life…that…I don’t truly appreciate everything that I should…or…that’s not quite true…I appreciate it…I just don’t get around to expressing it…and…for some reason…I just…assume…that they know…that it is somehow understood

Bertha…laughed…and assured me that the…assume…rule definitely applies here…she…also reminds me…that everyone…needs three things…

To be loved…to be heard…to be understood

And…that part of being loved is being acknowledged…and…she challenges me…to love…to hear…to understand…and…to acknowledge…today

Hmmm…I think I have a bit of work to do today…and…for days to come…

Jane

A Whole Lot of Living…

When there’s a choice between writing about living…or living…choose living! ~Bertha

Wow…it seems I took a week’s vacation…it wasn’t something that I exactly planned…although…if I’d really thought about it…I would have known that it was going to happen…

First…my daughters and families were here…which meant that there was usually either a lot of commotion…or someone sleeping in my guestroom/office…then…there was a quick trip out of town…and…here we are…a week later…and I’m finally back in front of my computer…moving my fingers as my thoughts appear on the screen…

At first…I was a bit antsy about not blogging…until…Bertha…reminded me…I spend a lot of time…writing about living…but that is a mostly solitary activity…and…that…it was perfectly okay…necessary even…to spend some time…surrounded by those I love the most…doing what I write about…living…

Of course she was right…she’s always right…blogging could wait…but…those hugs and kisses had an expiration date…as they all packed up and moved on to the next stop on their holiday trips…

And…I must say…it was one of the best Christmases I’ve had…I cooked…old favorites…washed dishes…cooked…washed dishes…washed dishes…washed dishes…well you get the picture…the important thing was…I felt good…and my family was around me…and…Bertha…was right…there was a whole lot of living going on…

Jane