When the Vice is Away…

Yesterday…Bertha…gave me the title for today’s blog…as I was editing…Becoming Bertha…then…she left me to contemplate her message…

There’s a chapter in the book…Heel Dumping…that has to do with letting go…and…yes…it refers to more than just worn out shoes…but…it didn’t really touch on…vices

However…vices…were what she wanted me to think about…and so…I did…particularly…letting go of vices…

I’ll digress…just a bit…the message in…Heel Dumping…is about replacing something before you release it…for example…a job…it’s usually best to find a new job…before you leave the one you’re in…

That was easy for me…it made sense…although there are times when just jumping off the cliff is the best way to go…I generally appreciate my security a bit more than that…

But…what about…vices…

Well…after letting the concept roll around in my brain for a bit…Bertha…was all too happy to fill me in…

Seems…the same principle is at work…it’s easier to release a vice…if I’ve replaced it with something else…something positive…and…if I start embracing the something else…before I start releasing…so much the better…

She reminded me of my diet soda vice of a few years back…the only good thing about the amount of soft drinks I consumed…was the workout I got from carrying all those 12-packs into the house…no need to lift weights

I tried several times…to…cut back…to no avail…until…I decided…I could drink as many as I wanted…as long as I drank at least 64 ounces of water…and…I started doing just that…but…what I found was…I didn’t have room for many drinks…and I quickly got down to one a day…then…after a couple of days of that…I realized I hadn’t had my drink for the day…and if I wanted it…I needed to drink it…right then

I haven’t had one since…and I think that was five years ago…

Of course…she was only…too…happy to list my other vices…past and present…but…I still have edits to do…so we won’t go there…

Let’s just say that…the process works for many things…and leave it at that…

Jane

One Easy Piece…

I was overwhelmed this weekend…there seemed to be so much to do…in so many areas of my life…that…I didn’t know where to start…and…so…I didn’t get much done on any of it…

I find this feeling to be very uncomfortable…I look around…literally and figuratively…and see so many pieces…that…I just shutdown instead of taking action…and…nothing gets done…it’s just too much…

Thankfully…Bertha…came home yesterday afternoon…I think she’d still be away on Spring Break…to remind me…to look at the task at hand…and only do the one easiest thing that I can do…don’t look further down the road…don’t look at the hard stuff…just focus on the easiest thing…and do it…

Well…of course she was right…I remembered…a few years back…when I wanted to quit drinking diet sodas…I didn’t start out there…that was too hard…I started out by drinking more water…that was easy…I allowed myself to drink as many drinks as I wanted…as long as…I drank 64 ounces of water…it naturally evolved that I was drinking one in the afternoon for several days…and then…one day I noticed that I forgot to drink it…and…I haven’t had one since…

It’s an approach that has served me well…in many areas of my life…

So…I took her advice…we all know that she wasn’t going to leave me alone until I did…and…I looked at things in a different way…what’s the one…easiest…thing that I can do to start this…not…how can I get this all accomplished in…one day…one hour…one minute…but…what is one easy thing I can do…and…what I found is that I did a few easy things…and…when I’m comfortable with them…then…I’ll look for the next easiest thing to do…and…the next…and…the next…

I relaxed…she’s right…I don’t have to make all the changes in one day…life is a process…and…I’m getting there…one easy piece at a time…

Jane