One Trick Pony…

You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want. ~ Zig Ziglar

I just love when…Bertha…can’t directly get my attention…she starts sending me messages in other ways…usually…multiple times…and so it was with the above quote…first I saw it on Facebook…and it reminded me of my friend who is always doing so much to help others…so I shared it on her page…but…evidently…it was meant for me as well…because it showed up the next morning in a blog that I subscribe to…

This one is a bit hard for me…not that I don’t enjoy helping other people…I love that…it’s just…when do I have the time to do what I need to do…if I’m spending it helping others…

Bertha…says…not to worry…Zig doesn’t say that I have to do it all…alone…take care of myself and everyone else…the implication…is that when I am giving to others…that things will flow back to me…either by someone else helping me…or…that they’ll just go easier…being in the right place at the right time kind of thing…

The trick is…to allow that help to come to me…that’s not easy for me…Mama says that at two I stomped my foot and said…NO! I’ll do it myself…and…I guess I haven’t changed that much over the years…somehow thinking that in doing it…myself…I was somehow proving I was a strong person…letting go of that stubborn independence…is tough for me…but…just for today…I’m going to try…

Jane

One Good Deed…

I’m quite aware of the phrase…paying it forward…and…I do it several times a day…without consideration of compensation…it’s just the way Mama raised me…play nice

Interestingly…I tend to pay forwards and backwards…remembering what it was like to be a young mother with a stroller and a toddler by the hand…I always try to hold doors and lift buggy wheels if needed…regardless of what I have in my hands…they are empty compared to hers…

I also paid backwards when raising my children…and…even today…when they needed things that were really a stretch for me…usually time and energy…I remembered all the sacrifices Mama made for us when we were growing up…all the ballgames and concerts she took us to…all the nights she stayed up sewing a new outfit…all the moves she helped us make…and…doing for my girls…was how I paid her back…

Courtesy in traffic…is probably some of both…and…something that I try to do…even though that driver who insists on speeding to the front of the merging lane before attempting to get over…when I’ve been sitting there for an eternity…does grate on my nerves…even after I let him over

So…it wasn’t much of a stretch for me a few months back when a co-worker mentioned that her daughter needed some sort of a cabinet for her new kitchen…I had an old cabinet that just might fit the bill…it was a converted wooden kitchen cabinet…probably used to have the flour bin built in…but had been modernized…with drawers…and was painted kind of country…it had been perfect for me a few houses…and a couple of thousand square feet ago…but…now…downsized…it was sitting in Mama’s workshop…just taking up space…albeit housing a couple of fruit jars…

Anyway…long story short…I offered…she accepted…she offered to pay for it…glad to find it a good home…I declined…just please…come and get it…they did…and everyone was happy…and honestly…I forgot about it…

Fast forward…New Year’s Eve…I woke up to no heat…thinking it was the thermostat…since it had gone blank on me…I called this same co-worker…whose husband is in the HVAC business…with visions of holiday charges dancing through my mind…I asked if he could come and check it…he did…it was the thermostat…he had one with him…he replaced it…and…then…when I went for my checkbook…he said…no charge…not even for the thermostat…just one blue cabinet

So…Bertha…says…she doesn’t even have to give me the moral to this story…although…she does want to point out that it contradicts the saying…no good deed goes unpunished

And…I must admit…as I sit here toasty warm…she’s on to something…

Jane