And the Word Is…Support…

It’s a…bright…shiny…New Year…time to consider my…word of intention…for the year…I’m usually well settled on it by now…but…this has been a busy time…so…I’m still contemplating it a bit…

In the past…I’ve had…gentle…which had to do with how I treat myself…then…there was…shine…which had to do with really being myself…and some other…really good ones

I thought this year was going to be…evolve…and…I was really excited…I mean…really…who doesn’t want to…evolve

Unfortunately…Bertha…changed my word…seems as though it is now…support…which I’m finding is another way of saying…trust

What can I say…I balked…I whined…I complained…I refused to write blogs…I wanted my…evolve…back…that’s what I wanted to do this year…

Then…she reminded me…that…as I trust those who are close to me…and allow them to support me…and as I prove myself trustworthy to them by supporting them…I truly am…evolving…

Hmmm…that sounds right…but…I wonder if I can trust her…

Jane

Holding Hands…

I suppose it is the nurse in me…or…perhaps the mother…but…it’s really hard for me…to sit beside someone who is in pain…whether…physical or emotional…and…do…nothing

My propensity…has always been to…fix it…even if that meant…totally taking over the other person’s life…usually without permission…and…honestly…quite often…making things worse instead of better…

But…lately…Bertha…has been holding me back…which is somewhat akin to riding a bucking bronco…but being up for the challenge…she has definitely been reigning me in…bit by bit…

First…she told me I was…arrogant

What…me…humble servant to the masses…

She held firm…I was arrogant to believe…that…I knew better than the other person what they needed…I was arrogant to believe that…I…was the only one who could fix things…

Hmmm…

Then she pointed out…that…I really wasn’t being a friend when I took over…because…I wasn’t trusting the other person…to work things out…I wasn’t giving them the opportunity…to learn their lesson…and…grow in the way that they needed to…she related it to a toddler…if someone picked it up every time it stumbled and carried it…it would never learn to walk…

Now…she was quick to point out…that doesn’t mean…that…I ignore my friends…that I don’t help out…no…not at all…she’s just reminding me…that…sometimes…holding a hand…is the only helping hand…that’s needed…

Jane