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Yesterday was a good day…yesterday I was brave…not always the case…yesterday…I asked for help…hmmm…not something I’m good at…
Funny thing is…most people…me included…enjoy helping others…of course…like others…I don’t want to be taken advantage of…but…it does my heart good…to be able to give to another…
So…why…is it so difficult to ask for something when I need it…
Hmmm…I’m not sure why I said…hmmm…I know the answer…actually…answers…first…it’s hard to ask for help…because…I’m afraid the other person will say…NO…and…second…I’m afraid someone will see me as weak…
So…I rarely ask…
Interestingly…Bertha…yeah…we knew it would be…Bertha…says that asking for what I need…is actually part of living my truth…she went on to say…that some people will say…no…for a variety of reasons…and…that some people will see me as being weak…for a variety of reasons…but…that for the most part…I’ll get the help I need…
I think she’s right…okay…I know she’s right…it’s just hard to go against years of stoic beliefs…
Now…Bertha…is saying that I should explain what I asked for…before…you think…I asked to borrow a million dollars…or…asked someone to cut my grass for the year…
Yesterday…I realized that I was a few ‘likes’ shy…of getting stats on my Facebook author’s page…so…I bucked it up…posted a request in the MasterKoda writing group I’m in…put in on my home page…and sent requests to many on my friend list…
Anyway…she was right…some people said…no…or just didn’t respond…some people may have thought I was weak…I’ll probably never know that…
But…what can I say…today…I have stats…they call it…Insights…Bertha…says I’m a long way from…insights…geez…
I’m learning…asking for help…isn’t necessarily a bad thing…it is part of living my truth…part of honoring who I am…
In fact…if you have some extra cash…or…a lawn mower…could you come on over…wow…I might get to like this…asking…
Bertha…quit hitting me with the skillet…I was kidding…geez…
Jane
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My Grandpa use to say, those that give will also receive. Those that just take, will end up being the poorer. You give a lot, being supportive and kind. People therefore happily give back!
Here endeth the lecture 😀
Kristina…thanks for stopping by…and sharing your Grandpa's wisdom…life is good…isn't it…
I have the same problem. I'm learning that I'm not only hurting myself when I don't ask for help but I also deny people the blessing they receive by helping someone. It's still not easy, but God's still working on me in that area.
You are so right about denying others' blessings…it does feel good to help others…I'm glad someone else is still learning…thanks for sharing!
Others will see you how they see you no matter what you do, they will find a reason to see you as weak if they want to. So happy you are on a path of learning and doing what it right for you Jane! By the way, also feel blessed to have the opportunity to like your page! BIG LOVE!
I am a non-asker also. Mostly because I've been said no to so many times, or said yes to and no one shows up to help. I guess it's the old, "I'd rather do it myself and have it take three days than ask for help and wait three days."
Last Sunday I posted the link to my page and said I could use a few more comments if anyone had the time. Not one new like – not one new comment. Guess it will be awhile before I ask again. Does not deter me from sharing, liking and commenting on others pages and sites though, but I am like you – find it difficult to ask for myself. Maybe Bertha should come and live here for awhile LOL!!!
Edie…that is so true…thank you…for your love…support…and…help…through the years…a true friend!
Arlene…it is difficult to ask…especially when you've been denied in the past…but…somehow…I know we must strike a balance…between standing on our own two feet…and allowing others to help us…for me…it's tricky…but…I'm working on it…
I wouldn't take it personally about last week…sometimes…the posts get buried…and don't get a response…I also sent a request to most of the people on my friend list…and that helped a lot…
Oh…Bertha does come with the cat…they are inseparable…especially since the incident with the super glue…oh…that's the next book…
Awe Jane I am glad you are learning each day and listening to others. Asking for help shows how much you care about yourself and that you know what you deserve. I did not see your request on Facebook and am sorry to say I did not know you have a Facebook authors page. I will try to locate the page today and catch up with you there. Big hugs to you Jane!
Christy…you are such a dear…thanks for your support…and big hugs back!